A breakup is a difficult thing to go through no matter what, and if you’re the one doing the breaking up it’s hard to know what to say. You learned our tips on keeping breakups as pain-free as possible in the current issue of Justine, but and now we’re spelling it out point by point to put your mind at ease even when you can’t seem to find the words.

Kindness first.

I’m really glad we’ve gotten to know each other for the past four months.

You know you’re really important to me. 

State the facts, gently but honestly.

But I just feel really tied down spending all my time with one person. 

But we’ve been fighting a lot lately. 

Get to the point.

So I don’t think we should see each other anymore. 

So I want us to be friends, but I can’t be your girlfriend. 

Kindness again.

I’m sorry if this hurts you. 

I hope this isn’t too hard for you. 

And then…

We had a lot of fun over the summer. 

I know you’ll be ok. 

That’s all. Resist the urge to go on and on. Sometimes less really is more, and this is one of those times.