Being a girl certainly has its perks, but unfortunately, gossip and drama tend to find their way into our lives sometimes—and who really has time for that anyway? Wouldn’t you rather be having embarrassing dance parties with your friends or focusing on acing that French test? Learn how to avoid the drama and save some friendships with these quick refreshers!

Go in with a positive attitude. Positivity is contagious—trust us! Plus, if you’re radiating positivity, you’re more likely to send off the vibe that you’re not a drama queen and that you have better things to do. Keep an open mind and don’t get involved too deeply in petty disputes.

Get all the information before you pick a side—or don’t! It’s important to remember that there are two sides to every story, so don’t jump to conclusions. In fact, don’t even feel like you have to choose! If someone is willing to spread gossip, there’s a good chance they’re not opposed to twisting your words either, so it’s best to keep your chin up and your mouth closed…just keep moving.

Keep your opinions to yourself. The one downside to being everyone’s friend is that someone’s bound to feed you the latest drama, despite the fact that you’re not involved. If someone asks you what you think about another person’s actions, say something non-committal. Don’t ever egg someone on or contribute to any malicious thoughts. Wouldn’t you rather spend your time doing something you love?

If you don’t have a reason to get involved, then stay out of it. Simple as that. We all want to stand up for our friends, but if that person is dragging you into dramatic situations on the reg, maybe it’s time for you to move on. Sometimes the best way to remedy a situation is to support your friend and build her up instead of fighting on the front line.

Don’t gossip. In one ear and out the other doesn’t always have a bad connotation! Get the facts or forget about it—nothing good comes from spreading rumors. Don’t think it could be that hurtful? Put yourself in that person’s shoes and you might just change your mind!